Our Wedding | Ceremony | Newlywed Post

When we were planning our wedding, it was really important to us that we had a personal say in every element. That way, there was nothing in our wedding that was not true to “us”. After reading various ceremonies, we had a hard time finding anything that really worked. Many ceremonies were too traditional or too non-traditional. Searching online helped a lot in seeing what other couples did to make their ceremony suit their relationship in a more honest way.


We wanted ours to be focused around our vows, and personalized by Josh’s dad, who served as our officiant. We made our wedding gender-neutral out of respect and our beliefs, as well as changing the wording of traditional ceremonies to fit our personalities and relationship.


Here is the basic layout of how our ceremony went. In the next few weeks, we will be sharing more about our wedding, our vows, the reception, our song choices, planning/diy’s, and what we would do differently. We can’t share our professional photos from the wedding on the blog, but you can view our wedding feature here.  We hope you enjoy! We can’t stress enough how important it is to create a ceremony that is true to who you are as a couple rather than worrying about expectations of family, friends, or society. //Ali + Josh


The Marriage Ceremony of Josh and Ali


“The Winner Is” by Devotchka
“Comptine d’un autre ete” by Yann Tierson

Opening quote: Sometimes, the only way to catch an uncatchable woman is to offer her a wedding ring.{from Big Fish}

Presentation of the Bride

-Officiant, (Josh’s Dad): Do you support Ali in her decision to marry Josh and become a part of our family?

-Mother and Father of the Bride: We do.

-Marriage Address-


-Officiant: Josh and Ali have written their own vows as a personal and unique expression of their love for each other. They have chosen to share them aloud with us in hopes that we not only witness their promises today, but encourage and support them tomorrow as they live out the words they have written.

-Groom: Reads vows

-Officiant: Do you Josh take Ali to be your wife, to live together as a married couple, come what may? Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honor her, and remain by her side in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both live?

-Groom: I do.

-Bride: Reads Vows

-Officiant: Do you Ali take Josh to be your husband, to live together as a married couple, come what may? Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and remain by his side in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both live? 

-Bride: I do.

Ring Exchange

-Officiant: Explains the meaning of the rings

-Groom: Ali, I give you this ring as a promise to love you, randomly bring you flowers, slow dance with you in our quiet apartment, and rock you like a hurricane.

-Bride: Josh, I give you this ring as a promise to make you pancakes at midnight,  to leave love letters on your windshield, and to love you madly.


-Officiant: Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the proclaiming of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Love itself is when you have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from your branches, you find that you are one tree and not two. {from Louis de Bernieres, Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, with revision}


-Officiant: Josh and Ali, with the blessing and support of your families and friends, by the vows you have made to one another, by the strength of your love, and in the presence of God it is my pleasure to pronounce you partners for life. Josh, you may kiss the bride.

For the very first time, I present Mr. and Mrs. Daniels.


“I would walk 500 miles” by the Proclaimers

{Next Wednesday post: Josh’s Vows} Our newlywed posts will feature other couples advice on marriage, as well as documenting our new marriage.

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2 Responses


  1. Richard....
    Posted November 30, 2011 at 12:50 pm | Permalink

    Posting your vows next week Josh….they are all about to cry

  2. Sean C
    Posted November 30, 2011 at 11:15 pm | Permalink

    I am so happy that I was a part of this day. You guys are beautiful people inside and out. I agree with Richard, pull out the hankies for next week’s post folks.

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